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Why Can’t I Stop Going Over It?

When grief feels like a broken record, and what helps

For the months after everyone else has moved on: why grief keeps circling back, and how to work out what yours is asking for.

Cover of Why Can’t I Stop Going Over It?, a free guide by Dr Chloe Paidoussis-Mitchell

Months on, still going over the same things, and worried you are grieving wrong?

People have stopped asking. You tell the same story and worry you are boring them. You replay the last days, or what you should have done differently. This guide explains why grief repeats itself, and why that is not a sign you are stuck.

Inside the guide

  • Is this you? A short check-list to see if this guide is for you
  • The four things grief circles back to: the replay, the if-only, the longing and the what-now, and what each one is asking for
  • Three practical steps for each, linked to the chapters of The Loss Prescription
  • Which loop am I in today? A page to fill in and come back to
  • Where your story can go when others have stopped listening, with words to borrow

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By Dr Chloe Paidoussis-Mitchell, Chartered Counselling Psychologist (DCPsych, CPsychol, AFBPsS), founder of The Grief Clinic London and author of The Loss Prescription (HarperCollins). This guide is an educational resource and is not a substitute for individual psychological care. If you are in crisis, call Samaritans free on 116 123, or 999 in an emergency.